Damn the luck!

Stasi · Post by **Stasi** » Wed May 21, 2008 1:47 am

So, just last week at work - no week previous - I was lamenting to a coworker how I need to find a gaming, anime loving, geeky girl. Now I suddenly have two such women that just appeared in like two days between Sunday and Monday... well one I've known for five months that just confessed she's had this big crush on me for a while (right back at her;)), and the other that I never met before is sooo... wow. WTF? A long dry spell and then two available women appear in the space of two days? W T F ?!? Damn the luck! Now I have to figure out which one to pursue... the one I want the most doesn't live near me, but the other does. Damn, damn, damn the luck(?)!

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Gubs · Post by **Gubs** » Wed May 21, 2008 2:12 am

Okay so I can't say i'm the love expert since i'm only 19 and failed at most of my relationships but i'd say go with the one that you see working out the best. Keep in touch with the other though.

You do seem pretty lucky to have two just pop up. Especially if they are a bit of a gamer. Two of my friends own a xbox and only one of my friends knows what WoW is. Its pretty hard finding a relationship when i'm not in school. I could hit on the 23ish year olds that are way outta my league at the gym..

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Chris Vogel · Post by **Chris Vogel** » Wed May 21, 2008 2:40 am

Gubs wrote: i'd say go with the one that you see working out the best.

Hehe.

I’m increasingly convinced that castration is the secret to a happy love life. Seriously, though, good for you! Where did you meet this crush gal? Any plans?

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Stasi · Post by **Stasi** » Wed May 21, 2008 4:55 am

Chris Vogel wrote:
Gubs wrote: i'd say go with the one that you see working out the best.

Hehe.

I’m increasingly convinced that castration is the secret to a happy love life.

I sometimes find myself thinking this very thing. The desire to love and be loved, or at its core, the biological imperative to have sex is so profoundly fundamental to the human experience. Some people are luckier than others... Some people are more successful than others in this. So much energy can be spent on it, and for what? Of course, should I ever find myself in a position of "romantic security" I won't have such thoughts, but I am certain that my life would be very different... much more successful and productive if I didn't have sexual desire and the desire to love almost always eating at me.

I was thinking about this during the last couple of weeks... I get depressed sometimes. Last week, I got so depressed at work, I even considered asking for a demotion. What caused it? Particularly hopeless thoughts about finding romantic success. As I've thought about each depressive episode, they all seem to stem from, or are triggered by discussion or thoughts about it in a hopeless context. I know each time, however, that such moods will pass, and that no major decision should be made during it.

Seriously, though, good for you! Where did you meet this crush gal? Any plans?

It's honestly very bittersweet for me. When I said "damn the luck", I meant it from the heart. The one that has a crush on me, that I've also had a crush on lives in California. We met gaming online, exchanged myspace links, and phone numbers, and things have only intensified. However, I just talked to her about the possibility of anything ultimately happening, and it really comes down to the challenge of dealing with the distance - something we might try to overcome, but not likely at this point. I know in my mind that this other girl that lives closer is the more logical, reasonable woman to pursue, but you have no idea how much I wish it was the girl in California. Despite wonderful possibilities with this local girl, I feel frustrated and somewhat saddened. But, c'est la vie.

If nothing serious happens with either, I will look back on this past Sunday and Monday with a forlorn despair... such possibilities, such beautiful possibilities that were ultimately not realized.

God I get sappy about this stuff, but I have been starved of it for so damn long... to get a mere taste, only to be returned to the middle of the desert... I would ALMOST rather never love, and never want to love or be loved.

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Chyse · Post by **Chyse** » Wed May 21, 2008 9:15 am

Stasi wrote: WTF? A long dry spell and then two available women appear in the space of two days? W T F ?!? Damn the luck! Now I have to figure out which one to pursue... the one I want the most doesn't live near me, but the other does. Damn, damn, damn the luck(?)!

God's a cruel bastard.

I'd say go with the one you can see yourself with in a few years. If she's too far away, then maybe just stay friends. Get to know this other girl first and make sure she's good for you and you like her a lot. Then make your decision. Don't rush into it.

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Stasi · Post by **Stasi** » Thu May 22, 2008 1:03 pm

So, after talking to the Cali girl, I'll be flying down to see her not this weekend, but the next. I'm actually not feeling all that nervous about it, either - I feel good about it. We've got great chemistry thus far... now we just need to see what happens face-to-face. GG, you might appreciate this, but I met her in WoW

We were questing in Desolace, killing those satyrs at like lvl 32 or 33 or something. We leveled together until about 55 and then grouped together occasionally afterwards. It just feels like this crap is falling into place too easily, but hell, since I've got the opportunity, I'll run with it. If this long-distance thing becomes more serious, well, at least I have a lot of vacation time I can take pretty easily and the money part really isn't an issue either.

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Red Squirrel · Post by **Red Squirrel** » Thu May 22, 2008 6:21 pm

looool if you marry her, that will make a great story about how you met.

I'm sure theres actually some married couples out there who originally met on online games. Thats great.

Sounds pretty serious if you're actually going out of town to see her though. Plane tickets arn't cheap.

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Stasi · Post by **Stasi** » Thu May 22, 2008 7:25 pm

Red Squirrel wrote: looool if you marry her, that will make a great story about how you met.

I'm sure theres actually some married couples out there who originally met on online games. Thats great.

Sounds pretty serious if you're actually going out of town to see her though. Plane tickets arn't cheap.

Dude, I'm a single guy who works Friday and Saturday nights... there isn't much else I'm spending my money on;)

As for the whole seriousness of it, I mean, we've known each other since December, have talked more and more over the last couple of months and now talk and text on the phone quite a bit. Sure some of it will wear off as the infatuation wanes and then maybe there'll be something more long-lasting... but meeting face to face is a necessary preliminary to just about every direction this thing could really even take, so I'm good with sooner vs. later - besides, I already has next weekend scheduled off from work, so it's yet another thing that has creepily worked out....

***edit: Hmmm, "I already has next weekend scheduled off"? LOLcat infection, sry.

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Chyse · Post by **Chyse** » Sun May 25, 2008 11:36 pm

Stasi wrote: So, after talking to the Cali girl, I'll be flying down to see her not this weekend, but the next. I'm actually not feeling all that nervous about it, either - I feel good about it. We've got great chemistry thus far... now we just need to see what happens face-to-face. GG, you might appreciate this, but I met her in WoW We were questing in Desolace, killing those satyrs at like lvl 32 or 33 or something. We leveled together until about 55 and then grouped together occasionally afterwards. It just feels like this crap is falling into place too easily, but hell, since I've got the opportunity, I'll run with it. If this long-distance thing becomes more serious, well, at least I have a lot of vacation time I can take pretty easily and the money part really isn't an issue either.

Dude, that's awesome. And it does happen. More and more frequently too. WoW is a much more social MMO than a game like Everquest or something. It's much easier to meet somebody you'll like in real life.

Here: http://mmocouples.blogspot.com/

EDIT: What class and race is she???

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Gubs · Post by **Gubs** » Mon May 26, 2008 3:42 am

goalguarder12 wrote: WoW is a much more social MMO than a game like Everquest or something. It's much easier to meet somebody you'll like in real life.

Hey hey, EQ is a very social game buddy.

In my opinion, I think EQ is a bit more social in terms of finding someone than WoW is. EQ has women that are more 21-25 while WoW has women that are jail bait..

But sticking to the subject, that is awesome Stasi. I've only been in one long distance relationship and that was because we got accepted to different colleges. I don't know if you live near california but since I like to be cheap, instead of flying, I would buy train tickets. Took about 3 days to get from Oregon to Minnesota. That part kinda drove me insane.

Which does remind me, you Minnesotaians are kind of weird Clueless.

When we would go out, nearly everyone said hi to us and tried to do a little small talk. In Portland, we just walk by each other. On a rare occasion you would nod your head at someone but that was it.

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Stasi · Post by **Stasi** » Mon May 26, 2008 9:20 am

goalguarder12 wrote:
Stasi wrote: So, after talking to the Cali girl, I'll be flying down to see her not this weekend, but the next. I'm actually not feeling all that nervous about it, either - I feel good about it. We've got great chemistry thus far... now we just need to see what happens face-to-face. GG, you might appreciate this, but I met her in WoW We were questing in Desolace, killing those satyrs at like lvl 32 or 33 or something. We leveled together until about 55 and then grouped together occasionally afterwards. It just feels like this crap is falling into place too easily, but hell, since I've got the opportunity, I'll run with it. If this long-distance thing becomes more serious, well, at least I have a lot of vacation time I can take pretty easily and the money part really isn't an issue either.

Dude, that's awesome. And it does happen. More and more frequently too. WoW is a much more social MMO than a game like Everquest or something. It's much easier to meet somebody you'll like in real life.

Here: http://mmocouples.blogspot.com/

EDIT: What class and race is she???

It is awesome. Never thought I'd "meet" a woman playing online computer games. Haha, she's a night-elf rogue. We play on Bonechewer.

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Stasi · Post by **Stasi** » Mon May 26, 2008 9:28 am

Gubs wrote:
goalguarder12 wrote: WoW is a much more social MMO than a game like Everquest or something. It's much easier to meet somebody you'll like in real life.
But sticking to the subject, that is awesome Stasi. I've only been in one long distance relationship and that was because we got accepted to different colleges. I don't know if you live near california but since I like to be cheap, instead of flying, I would buy train tickets. Took about 3 days to get from Oregon to Minnesota. That part kinda drove me insane.

The distance sucks, but whatever. We'll meet and see if the chemistry follows face-to-face. I think it will, but we'll see. If we click right, then we'll figure out how to proceed. I got direct round-trip flights... paid a bit more, but I am NOT going to go through a 5-7 hour ordeal (including flight time and layovers) before meeting someone for the first time. Heh, I don't know that I'd do any different any future time - that's way too much time that could be better spent.

Hey hey, EQ is a very social game buddy.
In my opinion, I think EQ is a bit more social in terms of finding someone than WoW is. EQ has women that are more 21-25 while WoW has women that are jail bait..

I have a couple of "rules" when I game online. I assume that people who play as a female character (as I do) are males, unless they prove otherwise - in the case of this girl, I found out via talking in Vent. I also never assume that even if it is a real girl, that she's legal, or otherwise worth real flirting - in this case, I "know" because I've seen her Myspace page.

Oh, and btw, from my past work at CompUSA, I also know there are a lot of 30-45 year old women who play EQ. WoW seems to definitely be a younger crowd.

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Gubs · Post by **Gubs** » Mon May 26, 2008 9:57 am

From what i've seen it might depend on the server though. On Lightninghoof a lot of the girls who play aren't older then 18. (Most quit playing for college). Lightninghoof isn't that great of a server imo.
On EQ, the majority of the women who play are married but i've ran into a few that are under 24.

I'm jealous that you get to go to cali, was supposed to go there this summer but my friend went to boot camp for Air Force ROTC.

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Clueless · Post by **Clueless** » Mon May 26, 2008 11:10 pm

Gubs wrote:
Which does remind me, you Minnesotaians are kind of weird Clueless.
When we would go out, nearly everyone said hi to us and tried to do a little small talk. In Portland, we just walk by each other. On a rare occasion you would nod your head at someone but that was it.

hahaha thats what you call minnesota friendly. where in minnesota did you go anyway??

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Gubs · Post by **Gubs** » Tue May 27, 2008 2:08 am

I went to Shore View / St. Paul. Was a nice, quiet little place. Completely different from downtown portland.

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Reaper · Post by **Reaper** » Sat May 31, 2008 4:58 pm

Stasi wrote: So, just last week at work - no week previous - I was lamenting to a coworker how I need to find a gaming, anime loving, geeky girl. Now I suddenly have two such women that just appeared in like two days between Sunday and Monday... well one I've known for five months that just confessed she's had this big crush on me for a while (right back at her;)), and the other that I never met before is sooo... wow. WTF? A long dry spell and then two available women appear in the space of two days? W T F ?!? Damn the luck! Now I have to figure out which one to pursue... the one I want the most doesn't live near me, but the other does. Damn, damn, damn the luck(?)!

Did you meet either of them on the Internets?

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Stasi · Post by **Stasi** » Mon Jun 02, 2008 2:37 pm

^^ I "met" both on teh internets.

I had my weekend in SoCal and had a great time. The great chemistry we had online and over the phone carried over face-to-face. So, we're going to try a long-distance relationship and see what happens.

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Bookworm · Post by **Bookworm** » Tue Jun 03, 2008 10:36 pm

Stasi, this thread about gaming and relationships made me think of this video on youtube.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SO5JY1KKYZo

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Stasi · Post by **Stasi** » Wed Jun 04, 2008 5:04 pm

Nice song, lol. The wife in that video was in the horror film "Wolf Creek"....

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scherzo · Post by **scherzo** » Wed Jun 04, 2008 11:49 pm

pursue the one that has 'admitted' having the crush. The other one might be your mind just playing tricks on you

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Stasi · Post by **Stasi** » Thu Jun 05, 2008 9:48 am

scherzo wrote: pursue the one that has 'admitted' having the crush. The other one might be your mind just playing tricks on you

Yep, the one with the crush is the one I'm now in a long-distance relationship with. Though the distance and cost of airplane tickets is/will be a pain going forward, I think she's worth it.

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flowergirlajg · Post by **flowergirlajg** » Thu Jul 24, 2008 10:25 am

awww!

*third grader voice*
STASI'S GOT A GIRLFRIEND! STASI'S GOT A GIRLFRIEND!

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Gubs · Post by **Gubs** » Thu Jul 24, 2008 4:09 pm

flowergirlajg wrote: awww!
*third grader voice*
STASI'S GOT A GIRLFRIEND! STASI'S GOT A GIRLFRIEND!

Yeah!, drinks are on Red because he lives in canada and i'm underaged.. Party at GG's though!

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Red Squirrel · Post by **Red Squirrel** » Fri Jul 25, 2008 5:39 pm

yeah our beer can actually make you drunk, the downside is that you have to drink responsibly, well you don't HAVE to, but that's what they say.

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Gubs · Post by **Gubs** » Fri Jul 25, 2008 11:22 pm

Eh, I just drink mix / liquor if I want to get drunk. Guinness is a pretty good beer to drink for taste. The drunkness factor is just a plus.
When ever I do get drunk. I get drunk responsibly. Usually because I end up passing out.

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